• Daniel Martanda

Reconquering Your Resources

Updated: Sep 27, 2020

Written By: Daniel Martanda


The first step for completing a difficult task is usually the hardest one.


When it comes to mental health, it is accepting the reality of your feelings. Recognizing that everybody is different, and nobody is perfect. Embracing your weaknesses and flaws. Planning how to learn from your failures. Desiring restoration & growth. This is the moment when you take the mask that you may have been wearing off & open the dam keeping your natural emotions from flowing.


CONGRATULATIONS!!

You just overcame a huge roadblock that prevents people from healing!

Give yourself a pat on the back! You displayed what your strength is capable of. I understand if you felt trapped but I am glad you recognize that the cage you thought you had could be broken open. You have opened the door and now need to take the next step towards freedom.


Now it is time to get stronger!


It is not easy to do all the hard work by yourself, so you may need some support from a helping hand. I have much respect for you if you have been independent and want to continue handling your things by yourself. However, I believe that taking advantage of resources will make things easier for you.


There are lots of resources out there, you just need to find the ones that help you best.

There are many areas where you can find your inner strength. Think about the steps you would need to take to get stronger physically. Several lifestyle changes would need to be made in order to get to achieve your goals. One revolves around what you put into your body. You can’t just expect going on a low-carb diet to be the answer to your problems.


Life is not that simple.


We should all be well aware that making better food choices is beneficial for our overall health. Increasing your daily water consumption & taking supplements can provide further assistance. If you want to get physically stronger, you will need to be willing to learn new techniques, warm up your body and train your weak points.


Whether you are working out alone or socially distanced from others, you need to come to your “gym” with the right attitude to meet your goals. Once you do that, the next steps in your plan should be much easier.


You may not be the strongest or healthiest person, but that should not stop you from trying your hardest.


Now think about the attitude people have with regards to building mental muscle. Not as good as it should be right?


New Year's resolutions often incorporate physical fitness. If society focused more on mental fitness, we'd may be more successful in achieving goals. Our body works alongside our mind, so it won’t do what our mind doesn’t tell it to do.


The steps needed to focus on your mind are not that different from the ones you may have to use for your body. Psychology Today refers to mental muscle as the key to self-discipline, delayed gratification, grit, and perseverance. These are the skills you need to become the best physical and mental version of yourself. However, our thoughts often limit us more than our physical pains. This can be a very difficult task for some people.



None but ourselves can free our minds

– Bob Marley




I’d like you to think about these two scenarios.


SCENARIO 1:

Imagine having a physical limitation or an injury that may prevent you from doing a certain task. Then you got woken & decided that you are not going to let that stop you. You got off your butt and gave it a try. Guess what? You ended up proving yourself wrong and was able to do it! Mission success!!! Feeling good? Like you should ;)


SCENARIO 2:

Imagine having a mental limitation or thoughts that may prevent you from doing a certain task. This is a tougher situation than people think. You are trying to convince yourself that you are strong and will not let your worries stop you. Your mind played a role in helping you prove that you would not let a physical limitation make you feel weak. This time you need your mind to put more effort but it’s throwing punches and fighting back. You can get overloaded with your thoughts and shut down. Sometimes even believe that you are weak. Here are some ways you can build your mental muscle.


MENTAL MUSCLE STRATEGIES

Spend a few minutes daily for a quiet reflection (15 minutes is a good start). It will give you an opportunity to gain clarity and renew your motivation.

Complete one tough thing every week. It is important to recognize that you completed something out of your comfort zone

Write in a journal some of the things you are grateful for. This will change the way you see the world & you will reap the benefits

Do not ignore your physical health. You must fuel your mind with sleep, exercise, and healthy food

Develop a kinder inner dialogue

Become more aware of your feelings. Label emotions and think about how they influence the way you think and behave

Create a timeline for your dream.

Spend more time with friends and family. Make it a priority to spend time with the important people in your life

Create a life that is in line with your values. Evaluate where you devote your time and energy and see if you want to make any lifestyle shifts that would help ensure that your life is in line with your values

Give up one bad habit. Focus on habits that rob you of mental strength, like feeling sorry for yourself, will ensure your healthy habits are much more effective


QUICK ACTIVITY

Put your phone on airplane & silent mode to minimize interruptions. Have a timer open set to 5 to 10 minutes. I want you to ask yourself what you would Google with regards to healing your mental struggle. Now think about what you would do if search engines were offline.


When I tell you to close your eyes, I would like you to visualize your current state of mind as a library. Pay attention to the tiniest details. Notice how many shelves there are & the different types of books that are stored in there. I want you to utilize a different sense for knowing when your timer runs out. Feel the vibration of your phone through the ground to and then open your eyes whenever you are ready. I don't want you to hear your ringtone go off, so you can even use earplugs if you wish. After you have opened your eyes, follow through with the next steps in this article.


Ready?

You can start your timer & close your eyes now...


Welcome back. We are going to repeat this process again but I would like you to change your perspective & think about how your healed state of mind in the future would look like. Pay attention to the attitude of your staff if there is any. Look at the quality & strength of your shelves. Look at how neat the books are and if they are well treated. Visualize how you would like your future library. Even if that means have drones or robots running around with books in their hands.


Ready?

You can start your timer again....


Welcome back again. Tell me what you noticed about your current and future library. What conditions were they in? How similar were they? Were your shelves broken? Were books laying on the floor? How relevant is this activity?


I will tell you. I'd like us all to understand what your body feels and what our mind can create. While writing this, I learned something new about a "Mind Palace" technique or "Method of Loci" that I never knew before. We need to practice visualization & notice things we may have glanced over.


If looked at the overall foundation of your library and saw damage, I want you to ask yourself this…


Why do you want to know the things that can help you feel better if you aren’t focusing on fixing your library?


Why do you want to get more books to store in your library when the foundation is falling apart? You can’t expect to retain and practice the information if your mind is not ready for it.


You need to have the right mindset, resilience, a game plan & a support system in place in order to get to the point you have set out.


Make a list of any resources you can find & understand that you need to take advantage of THE RIGHT RESOURCES that can HELP YOU HEAL & GROW. I am going to try my best to provide you with some that may help guide you on your journey. Through my blog series, we will go through what some resources are, where you can find them & what it means to reconquer them.


There is an abundance out there. Your mind may be the most powerful one. Understand the true strength a different mindset offers as it impacts your utilization of other resources. While we will dive deeper into our future articles, please take a look below at some of the small ways that may help you in your daily activities.

THINGS TO CONSIDER

• Scheduling your days in a planner

• Using a habit tracker

• Eat sufficient portions to hit your recommended daily nutrition value

• Drink lots of water

• Take a cold shower

• Meditation

• Exercise

Nothing is impossible. The word itself says “I’m possible!

- Audrey Hepburn